About ten years ago, I wrote a post entitled The Sin Of Busyness. In that post, I said that “too busy is a way of life for Western culture and it’s especially bad in the States“. Then I asked, ‘Are yo

From time to time I read something in a blog post or a book and wonder if I am guilty of what the author is talking about. When that happens, I ask my wife “Am I like that?” These questions are not al

With spring here, flower bulbs are showing up in the stores. Bulbs give a real punch of colour and if you get ones that fit your climate you can plant them, forget them, and they will come back every

Last week during the sermon, our pastor used the phrase cascading compromises. It’s a brilliant phrase and surprisingly Google only returned 24 hits for it. I immediately thought of a cascading compro

First, let me say that some of you who think this doesn’t apply to you are wrong. Early in marriage when women find it difficult to orgasm reliably, they tell themselves and their husband’s that their

Sexual shame is a sex-life killer and most women have felt sexual shame of some sort. This is even truer for women in the church and especially for those raised in the more legalistic corners of Chris

Yesterday Lori and I were talking about the idea of leaving a legacy. In fifty years I will be long gone, and aside from a couple of family members and some of my younger friends, no one will remember

Many years ago when Lori and I were struggling with sex, I asked her what she prayed about when she prayed about sex. She told me she could either pray about sex or have it. I understood what she mean

Last week I was feeling down. Bored, no energy, no drive, just blah. Rather than medicating that, I thought about it. I realised I’m missing what Lori and I call “blue and green”. We had just finished

I’ve worked up to swimming half a mile twice a week, and that has come with some sore muscles. If I ask Lori to help she will and most of the time she offers before I ask. A few minutes of working a m