Over on The XY Code yesterday, I started my post with this: Imagine this. Dinner is over and your husband says “Go sit on the deck while I do the dishes.” A bit later, as the sun is setting, he comes

I think we have a tendency to divide couples into two groups; those who are married and those who have divorced. We see the first group as good and the second as bad. The former we should emulate, the

Being on Quora is a scary insight into how people think and process life. I’ve blocked the flat earth folks (there are a number of them) but I still regularly see people saying things that are as craz

Years ago, Lori and I learned a great saying from a friend who’s a pastor’s wife: “Not my circus, not my monkeys.” We’ve used that with each other and I think I’ve written about it here. But I recentl

Lori and I spend Tuesday mornings at a local coffee shop. We both have more or less regular meetings with friends, and other folks from church pass through and may join us. Last week my usual coffee d

We have just come through a difficult season and I did everything I could to be there for my wife. She has thanked me for all kinds of things, often multiple times. Of course, she usually thanks me fo

Last Sunday our pastor started on chapter five of First Corinthians. Much of the letter is corrective and in chapter five Paul takes the gloves off. The pastor said he had heard a surgeon say, “The ch

Over the last couple of decades, I’ve become a better-than-average cook. At first, I was tied to recipes as I learned the science of cooking. As I started to make the jump to the art of cooking I coul

I still have an urge to put my hands in my pockets when I enter a knick-knack shop or antique store. The reason? When we were kids, my mother always told us to do this so we wouldn’t pick things up an

Yesterday on The XY Code I tried to explain to the ladies what it means when a man says “whatever”. What I want you to know is most women are annoyed by that non-answer. If annoying her is your goal,