Forty years ago I was in my first auto accident. I was first in line at a red light. When the light turned green, I hit the gas. As I entered the intersection I realised the car on the street to my left wasn’t... The post It Wasn’t My Fault, But I Could H

Yesterday I talked about our Christmas music as a tradition. Couple traditions are a good thing for your marriage! Lori and I have orange rolls and bacon for brunch on Thanksgiving and Christmas before we join the rest of the family for the day.... The po

Last night we started the Christmas music. Usually, it starts November 1st or the first decent snow, whichever comes last. But this year both of those passed without any Yule tunes. I changed operating systems last spring, moving to Ubuntu. Moving my mus

What a lot of wives would like from their husbands is a bit more couple time. Intimate time together, but probably not sex. In a world where busyness is seen as a virtue, stopping to spend time with your wife is radical, counter-cultural, and... The post

The most commonly used Greek word translated as sin means to miss the mark. It is either an archery term or refers to spear-throwing, depending on the source you use. I like the idea of sin being missing the mark because it makes sin...The post Missing

In my How You Ask Why Matters post over on The XY Code, Tory mentioned that research has found why can be a hot-button word. Why can sound accusatory, even when thats not the intention. You can try to phrase the question to avoid...The post Ask What R

Clashing standards and expectations can cause a plethora of marriage problems. One place where differences can be especially harmful is the bedroom. Because sex is so personal, our sexual standards and expectations feel very personal. When expectations ar

Humans are given to complaining about what we dont like. Unfortunately, most of us arent nearly as given to praising what we like. When Lori and I started doing what we do online, we got more complaints than praise. Fortunately, we knew folks with...T

There are places where we have limits on the minimum that is acceptable. And we rightly have these in our marriages. You have such lines and so does your wife. Some of those lines are based on reasonable things, some are not. If you’re... The post When Li

As Lori got over her surgery, she wasnt doing nearly as much as usual. That of course is right and necessary. She felt bad that I was having to do things she normally does, but I had no problem with it. One evening as...The post Because Something Is Goo