As the days get shorter and the sun doesnt rise as high in the sky, a bit of warm light can make a real difference in how we feel while we are stuck inside. Candles are generally thought of as a female thing. I...The post Better To Light a Candle appe

I was listening to my wife and son, both introverts, talk about their need for quiet alone time. As an ambivert, I have to just accept their reality as valid. There are exceptions, but in most marriages, one is an extrovert and the other...The post Intr

In Stand Up For Whats Right, Regardless I said that when we choose to continue in a dysfunctional marriage we give our children and those around us a bad example. We also send a bad message to the world. That very much applies to...The post Stand Up F

Aside from the good surprise kind, secrets have no place in a marriage. If your wife knows youre keeping secrets its hurting your marriage. If she suspects you are keeping secrets that will hurt your marriage too. What qualifies as a secret? Pretty muc

Its sadly common for me to see men here and women on the XY Code say Id like to do that, but my spouse Ive seen this about doing something or doing more of it. Ive also seen about not doing something or doing...The post Dont Be A Victim Of Your S

This post is a special case of what I talked about yesterday in Stand Up For Whats Right, Regardless. Many moms are overprotective of their sons. Maybe they do okay when the boy is young, but dont adjust as he grows up. Part of...The post Stand Up For

I recently had a dream that Im going to use as the basis for a couple of posts here and over on The XY Code. In the dream, I was a teenager and I had a girlfriend. The girl in my dream was not...The post Stand Up For Whats Right, Regardless. appeared

Do you always feel run over by the holidays come January? Its run, rush, and hurry from Thanksgiving till January. When you do too much you dont enjoy most of it. In addition to not getting to enjoy what you do, you dont get...The post Its Time to Ta

I was at a marriage seminar today. You will be hearing more about and from that in the next couple of weeks. The speaker started by talking about cultural and church myths about marriage that hurt couples. The attendees had no problem coming up... The pos

Ive never been shy about letting yall know I enjoy a great sex life with my wife. Part of the reason for it being what it is would be the fact that Lori is generous about everything, including sex. But thats not the most...The post A Wife Who Wants &