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Ever notice how peoples supposed strengths are really about a weakness? The person who is independent fails to build good relationships because they dont trust others. The man who is unconcerned about what others think cant be corrected. The man who li

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Verbal processors speak to clarify thoughts. Non-verbal processors think before they speak. ~ Scott Reyes Verbal processors are infamous for thinking out loud and confusing all the non-verbal processors around them. ~ holtfan I am a verbal processor. Talk

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