The last few days, Lori and I have been on a mini vacation. Because of Dave Ramsey, this is the shortest and lowest cost vacation weve had in a very long time. But its still a much-needed break especially since we each just...The post FF: Start An Ou

Today is February 29th a day that comes around even less often than a blue moon. What happens far too infrequently in your marriage? I mean besides sex. What do you, or your wife, need to happen more frequently? What does your marriage...The post Not N

Enough Generosity This blog is not about being enough, its about being generous. Lets get a definition: generous /jen()rs/ adjective (of a person) showing a readiness to give more of something than is strictly necessary or expected. More th

I want to suggest you bring your wife a flower a day. But not a physical flower. Make it a kind word, an extra long hug, doing one of her chores, taking her out for dinner unexpectedly, or getting her a small gift.   Think... The post Build a Bouquet of L

In yesterdays XY Code, I talked about a wife who basically feels like a receptacle for her husbands penis and the sexual urges that come with that. I nearly cried when I read her comment a few weeks ago, and it still saddens me....The post Challenging

Did you read my post, about budgeting your time, and think might work for you, but you dont understand my life!? I get it, really, I do. I know when you have kids, things come up. I know friends, in-laws, your boss, and so...The post FF: Learn To Say

From time to time over on Quora, some fellow tries to excuse physically harming his wife because of her actions, words, or choices. Yes, he abused her, but it was her fault. Of course, this is what abusers do, and none of us are... The post Don’t Blame Yo

Someone over on Quora shared something their first philosophy professor said: If you cant paraphrase somebody elses position in a way that they would agree with, you dont understand it, and if you dont understand it, you cant debate it. What a brilli

If your wife does most or all of the cooking, that can be a strain on her at times. When shes busy, stressed, or sick, be ready to jump in and feed the family. The trick here is coming up with a tasty, healthy...The post Step Up to the Stove: Easy Meal

On Thursday, I talked about learning better tactics rather than better behaviour. Today, lets think about how we do that with sex. First, lets talk about why the temptation to do this is so strong with sex. If youre not having as much sex...The post I