I finally got the fire pit set up in the backyard, and Lori and I spent some time out there last night. Not as great as sitting at the beach, but very nice. Something about being outside relaxes the body and refreshes the spirit.... The post FF: Discover

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life. ~ Proverbs 13:12 ESV On Tuesday, I pointed to this scripture and asked you to guard your wifes heart from you. Today, I want to encourage you to guard...The post Protecting Yo

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life. ~ Proverbs 13:12 ESV Ive seen a lot of folks hurt by hope deferred. Ive also seen people crushed and destroyed by it. And sadly, Ive seen a lot...The post Guard Your Wifes

I read somewhere that our most common approach to fixing things is to add something. We default to addition rather than subtraction when it comes to finding solutions. This tendency has been seen in everything from engineering to cooking. It can also be

One more post on vibrators. First, the fear that once a woman is coming this way, she will lose the ability to do so without a vibrator. Honestly, my first thought is If this happens, its a problem, why? No really, if shes enjoying...The post Vibrato

I once tweeted*, Ever notice kindness and busyness tend to be mutually exclusive? Are you too busy to be kind? Yes, this is another margin thing. Kindness is far easier when you have margin in your life. When youre rushed, you dont want to...The post

I often suggest that doing certain things has a good chance of resulting in your wife making a change you will like. This is basic human nature, and if it helps motivate you to do what you should, that’s great. However, we need to... The post Following Je

When Lori and I got married, we both knew she had some significant issues due to being molested as a child and raped in college. And we assumed our problems with sex were all about that. She was broken. We both knew it. Thing... The post Recognising and A

Ive recently heard about a couple of instances where someone made a mess of a relationship by saying something they felt they had to say. In both cases, I think the biggest failure was not starting with I love you, and this situation wont...The post T

There was some push-back on my recent posts about using a vibrator during sex. I fully expected that. Im going to address one of the most common concerns. One claim I hear is that vibrators get in the way of intimacy. But I also...The post Vibrators Can