Every day, I hear the story:  “I thought we were just ‘on pause.’  After ______, we would get back to the relationship.”  That ______ can be:  friends, hobbies, education, job, sports, interests, and often — KIDS.

The Immutable Laws of Marriage are violated at your own peril.  This week, it is not so much a law you might violate, as much as it is a law you need to know. Here it is:  We ALL have fears that we bring into a marriage.

Many people enter a marriage, assuming their marriage will make them happy.  Too many “Happily ever after movies,” perhaps. You can have a happy marriage.  But a marriage is not THE path to happiness.  It can be a part of your happy life.

We start a new series this week, The Immutable Laws of Marriage. The universe is ruled by laws. Our world is ruled by laws.  And these are not the ones enforced by a governmental agency. These laws are more akin to, for example, gravity.

Have you ever been sucked into a situation or argument, then realized your actions were not what you wanted? There is that split second, that pause, where you get to choose your response. Many people miss that split second, telling themselves,

Many times, in the midst of trying to save a marriage, the anxiety and fears can lock you up, overwhelmed with what to do next. When that happens, the outcome is often a lack of change, motivation, or action.

Games should be fun.  But the games we are talking about today are NOT fun. These are patterns of interaction and communication. The design is to get a need met.  But behind it is a dysfunction.  It may be a lack of clarity in what someone wants or exp...

Over and over, people tell me about their “unique” situation, doubting that my System would do anything for their marriage problem.  Deep down inside, we all believe we are “special,” unique, and beyond the information that is out there.

This post may be a bit. . . confrontational.  But let me be clear that change requires a change.  Something must shift.  A new perspective must develop.  And personal growth is part of that. Here’s why I think this topic today is so important:  on an a...

You’ve been working hard.  You’ve been trying to make some personal changes, growing and expanding yourself.  You’ve been trying to build a connection with your spouse, slowly and steadily. You feel good about what you are doing.