Pretty much every day, I hear from someone telling me about a controlling marriage situation.  Either they are controlling or they are being controlled.  Either way, the underlying dynamics are the same. Control is a hallmark of dysfunctional relations...

Feeling like quitting is not the same as making a decision to quit.  One is an emotional response to the struggle.  The other is a rational decision.  Unless, of course, you confuse the two. It is true in all of life.  We can feel like quitting a job,

The phone rings.  I answer.  The person on the other end blurts, “I CAN’T SAVE MY MARRIAGE!”  And as calmly as possible, I add “Yet.” Uh? “I can’t save my marriage YET.” Uh? Many times, people contact me to tell me their marriage can’t be saved.

Whenever I am alone on a long drive, I try to answer all the calls I can.  This past weekend gave me another opportunity.  I delivered my son to college and had an 8 hour drive home. I answered a call as I was leaving the mountains.

Confidence and capability.  Two big blocks holding people back from saving their marriage — unnecessarily! People call or write me and tell me they are absolutely ready to do whatever it takes to save their marriage. . .

Connection is the lifeblood of marriage.  In fact, we are wired for deep connection.  And while the connection works best within the marriage relationship, it is not singular. Many couples find connection in only one or two areas,

I know. You want to convince your spouse to see things your way.  So, you set out to “get” your spouse to agree with you. …And you have now begun walking down a very dangerous path. (I bet you didn’t think so, did you?) Almost always,

Sometimes, in the midst of trying to save your marriage, you can get lost.  You can forget why you are doing this.  Your spouse’s negativity, the negativity of others, may drown out your “why.” Don’t let it.  This is important work.  Not easy.

Are your efforts to save your marriage getting stalled?  Maybe we should take a look at your plan. You do have a plan, don’t you? Let’s talk about 5 reasons your plan (or lack of plan) may be the trouble — and what we can do to make a switch.

There is a trap waiting. It springs on you, sometimes even before you get started with saving your marriage. That same trap is waiting for you at every point of the process. You can easily get stuck in it. What’s the trap?