How can a guy keep himself from mistreating–or even abusing–his partner? And how do you even start talking about those behaviors? Those are a couple of topics we discuss with author Matthew Fray in this video. TIMESTAMPS (click on a time below to be taken to that section) 0:00 Intro 0:18 Betrayal trauma & how it is the dividing line 2:08 One Solution: How to not be a mistreater/abuser * 3:20 The hard word: Abuse (...and ADHD) 5:04 One Solution: A way to talk about abuse * 7:36 One Solution: The challenge with validating in this area 9:39 The impact of habitual porn use on empathy 11:23 Toxic, clueless or teachable? 12:40 In the next episode: What if he’s not all in? -- https://thecouplecure.com - Jay and Lori's website https://matthewfray.com - Matthew Fray's website https://pornpainhealed.com - Lori's site for betrayed partners https://porniskillingme.com - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery #abuse #mistreatment #validation #empathy