What do you think is happening when you are not feeling okay? Do you think it is because the outside world is not okay, because other people are behaving badly or that there is something wrong with you? Looking for the source of your feelings can be a nev

Have you noticed where your thoughts tend to flow? Probably down the same tracks they have always flowed down a bit like the way streams flow down a mountain to a river. The water goes where it has always gone. We have furrows like that in our old, habitu

I know that might sometimes seem hard to believe that you are okay but I guess it depends what you view as being okay. It is okay to cry, to have negative thoughts and to feel anxious. I could go on and on and on. When I talk to clients, I see this all th

Are you in touch with your internal weather system right now? Is it stormy, sunny or maybe a little cloudy? It is good to be aware because there is information in that weather. It's an update to let you know how your thinking is. But this metaphor goes on

Have you noticed what happens when you stop blowing air into a balloon? Silly question I know but bear with me. Let's imagine a scenario! You have a number of balloons you are trying to blow up at once with a canister of helium. You start blowing up ballo

I remember the first time I became aware of being afraid of being afraid. It was many years ago when I first started helping people with fear. A woman I was working with was afraid of flying. She spoke of the fear of the fear arriving. That when it came s

Can life work within more than one paradigm? In other words, can there be more than one model of how something works that is true? The set of psychological principles I share is often called the Inside Out paradigm. It says that our experience is created

Have you ever contemplated how much you have learned in life? When I think about that, it feels like thinking about the size of the universe; impossible to conceive of the size of it. You definitely learnt some things which have served you well through li

How much time do you spend thinking about your thinking was a question I asked recently on social media. The result showed that 67% of respondents spend more than 50% of their time think about their thinking. I can so relate to this because I spent a lot

Are you perfect? I know I am not! I make mistakes and mess up because I am human. My mistakes might look different to yours and my judgement might make yours look worse than mine in my head. But sometimes my judgement makes my mistakes looks worse than yo