Is your world shrinking? Are you avoiding things because you think they make you feel bad. Like certain people, situations and circumstances. Or are you forcing yourself to do certain things because you think you cannot be okay without them. Like meditati

Do we really have a choice? It can look like there is choosing happening can't it? But who is doing the choosing. The same mind which has created the options. The same conditioning deciding one thing is right and one is wrong. The same thinking which is c

Loneliness is the state of being lonely. Lonely is defined as, 'being unhappy because you are not with other people'. But being alone is not a prerequisite to feeling lonely. If we feel unhappy about not being with other people then that is because we hav

Are you aware of the associations that you make? How you connect one incident to a similar one in the past. We are all doing it all the time. I did it this morning. Wrapped a story around a message. It felt awful - jittery! That was the clue. The clue tha

Optimism is something we are encouraged to be more of because being pessimistic is not the done thing. I completed a gratitude journal for 5 years, every single day with the aim of becoming more optimistic!  But now I see this differently. Optimism i

It's mental health awareness week! The most powerful word in that phrase is awareness because with awareness you can see that you are not any of the thoughts in your head, you are not what you believe you are and that you are the observer of those things.

How much time do you spend inside other people's heads? Have you noticed how that can make you feel? Angry, frustrated or overwhelmed.  That feeling is telling you that what you are thinking isn't true. Your feelings are always telling you about the

When we are caught up in our stressful thinking and tired, we don't have clarity. Literally there is too much noise in the system. Just knowing this is helpful! Because when we realise, we might take a breath and give ourselves a minute. We didn't spot it

There is a force in the universe! It gets a lot done. It makes the earth spin around the sun, my heart beat and my lungs breath and it makes the flowers bloom. I guess it's a relief that you and I don't have to do that isn't it?  But did you know tha

Should is a much over used word. I spot it in my clients quite often and in myself. It comes from a sense that something is supposed to be different to how it is. Another person's behaviour, a situation or the way we are. When we use the word 'should' it