Recently I have become more aware of urgency! You know that feeling that something needs to be done yesterday!  Urgency feels very real in the moment and it feels like the only way to get rid of that feeling is to do the thing! But the feeling isn't

'Comparison is the thief of joy' - Theodore Roosevelt. From what I have seen this is certainly true. It comes up often in my coaching sessions but today it has come up as a request from a friend who asked me to talk about 'avoiding the curse of comparison

Futurism is defined as the concern with events and trends of the future, or which anticipate the future. I suspect this can be fun when we are curious and holding it lightly but that's not often what we do is it? We tend to believe our concerns and that t

What is a personality? Of course I looked it up on Google. Personality refers to individual differences in characteristic patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving. Nothing to do with who we really are then because we are not thinking, feelings or behavi

How do things escalate? A small disagreement which becomes a massive argument. It's always fuelled by a misunderstanding. It's the same misunderstanding I always talk about. The misunderstanding about there our feelings comes from. It starts with a reacti

Difficult conversations is the topic today. It's a request from Dr. Johannes Metzler (Please drop me a message if you have a request) This is what he said, "I just noticed how some clients are afraid of difficult conversations because they have created th

I was seeking for a long time. Looking to feel differently. Wanting more motivation. I tried E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. Every tool and technique and all the books on productivity. But then I saw that the problem was the seeking. When I stopped looking outside o

Are you good at mood awareness? Not mood judgement or criticism but awareness. Do you know what is going on when you are in a low mood? It's low mood thinking which is likely to produce low mood words and deeds. So it might be worth waiting until the low

Criticism comes in 3 flavours that I have seen. Criticism of others, being criticised and self criticism. They are all created in the same way from certain false ideas. The thought that there is a right and wrong way to do things, the misunderstanding abo

Human's are meaning making beings. This is a normal and natural part of how we work. When something happens we create meaning about it but often we don't realise that we are doing that. We miss that we are creating not receiving reality. Each one of us is