Self-judgement takes us away from calm over and over again. The sense we are supposed to think, feel and behave differently. But imagine a life without that layer of extra thinking. A life without the judgement. A space where it really is okay to be not o

Being in the present moment is much sought after but it can seem like there is a lot to do to live life there. Mindfulness courses, meditation and affirmations. But your clever system is set up perfectly to let you know when you are not in the present mom

Are you aware of how your beliefs create your reality? All day every day they are the means by which our brain prioritises what you see and what you don't. You cannot possibly absorb all of reality so your brain very cleverly saves you from overloading by

Have you noticed how much in life you are trying to control? People, circumstances and situations. But ultimately underpinning this is our need to control our feelings. When we think those feelings come from the outside world, we will continually try to c

Resilience can look like something to get from outside us. That we need to train hard to get it. But what if you knew that every day you are alive resilience is there. Like a rope around your middle moving you forward. It cannot be lost or taken away. It'

When we are feeling anxious, it can often seem like things in the world need to change for us to feel better. Once we see that thought in the moment is creating our suffering, it makes sense to stop certain trains of thought. It takes time and practise bu

When we are in a low mood, it is really easy to think that means there is something wrong with us. We might get caught up in trying to fix the mood. That can be pretty exhausting to say the least. Something magical happens when we accept that, as human be

When it looks like our circumstances are in the way of us staying calm, we can feel like a victim. Ranting and raving can result as we try to think our way out of the feeling. The inside out realisation changes all this. The truth is your feelings don't c

I was plagued by imposter syndrome at work. I took it with me into self-employment. That voice in my head telling me I was not good enough. I tried all sorts to get rid of it but it didn't work. Then I simply learnt to take that voice less seriously and i

Are you in the habit of putting things off? I noticed this about myself a long time ago and then tried to fix it. I used to be waiting for a certain feeling to do things. But then I saw that feelings come from thoughts. I realised that my thinking does no