The Workamper Show Podcast

The Workamper Show Podcast


Levi and Natalie Henley talk about maintaining positive relationships on Episode 092

October 27, 2020

Today we are going to talk about an important subject that applies to every couple and family seeking to enjoy the full-time RV lifestyle – and that’s how to maintain healthy personal relationships while confined to 400 square feet of living space.

Levi and Natalie Henley have been married for 12 years and full-time RVing for six of them. In fact, they have also worked 20 Workamping jobs together. Through it all, they have learned a lot about each other’s personal habits and traits on the job and how to differentiate what goes on at work from their private lives.

Levi explains how Workamping is different from traditional work situations because the couples are often working side-by-side rather than at different worksites. So, it’s no longer a matter of coming together and asking each person how their day went because they’ve been sharing the same experiences and working with the same people.

What is important is that couples process their feelings pertaining to what happened on the job in a way that bolster’s healthy communication rather than bottling in any frustrations they may experience.

It’s essential that couples support one another in Workamping situations to be a supportive cheerleader when things aren’t going so well and coaching the other person on how to make the situation better.

They discuss an issue I never would have considered before and that’s how many couples may playfully interact with each other in words and actions that could cause problems for other employees or would be considered violations of company policies.

It’s also different in work situations when a spouse says or does something that annoys the other person. If a different employee had done the same thing, it would have likely been easier to brush it off. However, because the spouse was the offender, different dynamics come into play.

The Henleys discuss the importance of giving each other plenty of space for alone time to decompress from a tough situation or simply to pursue a hobby.

Workamping can be particularly troubling for some couples who have never worked together in employment situations. The Henleys offer advice on what to expect during those early jobs so that couples can be aware of what’s likely to happen so they can recognize a potential problem before it becomes a big flare up.

Workamping can truly enhance a strong relationship or work to expose cracks in a relationship’s foundation. That’s why I am particularly grateful to Levi and Natalie Henley for coming on the show to explain what they do that works to maintain a positive and successful marriage.

As they noted, sometimes people just have a bad day at work or get into a bad mood. But we tend to internalize that to believe the other person is upset with us specifically when, in fact, it could just mean that someone’s having a bad day and overwhelmed about something that doesn’t even involve the other person.

That’s why communication is so critical to ensuring a mutually-rewarding marriage and Workamping experience.

Levi and Natalie actually delve into relationships – both personal and work relationships – in their blog and in some YouTube videos they prepared. You can find the blog at www.henleyshappytrails.com or by searching for the Henley’s Happy Trails YouTube channel. Their book, “Seasonal Workamping for a Living,” is also available on Amazon.com.

One of the things that can really help a couple before they engage in a Workamping situation is to complete what’s called a DISC assessment. It’s a quick personality test that shows how you and your partner are likely to respond in various situations.

This knowledge raises awareness of how a person typically behaves in that kind of e...