There’s a temptation when you first start dating to tell a guy what you expect from him. After all, previous men have disappointed you, you’ve learned your lessons, and you want to set healthy boundaries and expectations. The issue is twofold: a) you can’t tell a man who is not your boyfriend how to act and b) you don’t always deliver the message in an effective way to get what you want.

In this episode, I break down the logic about when you should talk about your needs and how to know your requests are reasonable and well-received.