I know men are supposed to be heartless and soulless. Sex machines who only text. Losers with no moral compass. Opponents on the battlefield of love. Surely, some of them are. But more of them, you may be surprised to remember, are actual human beings. Like you, they’re attracted to what they’re attracted to. Like you, they’ve made questionable choices in the past. Like you, they don’t know what combination of chemistry and compatiblity makes for a great partner. Like you, they’re muddling through, doing their best, and realizing that something isn’t working. As Mansplainer-in-Chief, I’m not justifying any male misbehavior. I am saying that the more you can connect with him emotionally on a date, the more likely you’ll see a better side of him.