Christian marriage advice often talks about disrespect of a husband by his wife. It’s a valid issue, but some have taken it way too far. And some husbands have grabbed onto the issue as a magic shield they can use to end any discussion... The post Let’s S

The Harvard Study of Adult Development is an amazing body of work. For 84 years and counting, they have followed 268 Harvard sophomores and a group of boys from Boston’s poorest neighbourhoods. They are now following the offspring of the original subjects

I’ve been very aware of my wife’s needs since her surgery. When standing up hurts, or requires help, having someone ready to get you anything you want or need is a blessing. It makes you feel loved an

One of the fun things about Lori being told she had a “mass” in her uterus was my getting to face the reality she could die. It’s not like I’d never considered it, but it became a lot more real. We we

So my wife has had a baseball-sized tumour in her uterine wall for months. It caused some minor problems and discomfort and made sex, ah, interesting. Now my wife likes sex and wanted it for herself.

This is another post based on information from When Baby Makes Three, the 2011 State of Our Unions, a report from the National Marriage Project. The reason this blog is “The Generous Husband” is my br

Today my wonderful wife is having a hysterectomy. A few months back we learned she had a mass in or on her uterus. We were soon told it was unlikely to be cancer. Eventually, a biopsy and other tests

Yesterday I talked about seeing all the options, even those not mentioned or offered. As difficult as this is for many of us, it’s far more difficult for women. Traditionally society hasn’t wanted wom

I end each XY Code post with a flippant tagline. I don’t put a lot of thought into them, but sometimes they say a lot about who and how I am. My Monday signoff was “I’m XY, and I often take the path n

Ask your wife to suggest doing something together that she thinks you won’t do. Then surprise her by doing it, doing it soon, and not complaining during or after. A post worth reading: the art of non-