What do you want from your marriage? How do you want your marriage to be? Why do you want what you want? What is the root of your desires? If your desires for your marriage come out of brokenness or fear, your desires can’t... The post Friday Flashback: E

The meal shown here is the result of a long-term dream and a great deal of effort. I dispatched the quail, while Lori went foraging for chanterelle mushrooms. The thyme came from our garden, and while those potatoes were store bought, we have grown... The

Our marriage group has been reading The Warrior Poet Way: A Guide to Living Free and Dying Well. Overall, I like the book. Some will call it hypermasculinity, but theres good balance. Author John Lovell is a mans man. Hes a former Army Ranger,...The p

So imagine this: Every time you do something on the honey do list, your wife removes an item of clothing. And when shes naked, she takes you to the bedroom and make you glad youre her man. Okay, come back to reality now. Thats...The post Attack the Ho

Ive often said porn is not primarily about sex. Sex is the hook and what gives porn its power, but the real issue is self-medicating. One place where this is difficult to see is when a man is using porn because his sex life...The post Porn Isnt Primari

I came across The Busy Trap on the opinion pages of the on-line NY times. Since I just wrote on this, I took the time to see what the fellow had to say. The whole thing is good, but one pull quote really jumped...The post Friday Flashback: When Friends

This post will be a bit different. It has a massive marriage impact, but it’s not directly about marriage. This post is in praise of living in community. I’ve desired to live in community since I moved out of my family home at the... The post The Blessing

The holidays are coming! Does that fill you with joy? Or with dread? Or a bit of each? And how does it make your wife feel? The holidays should be a time of friends and fun, but all too often its more about stress,...The post Plan Now for Less Holiday S

Its been said a true friend will help you hide a body. I think a true friend will help you move an upright piano from the basement! Whatever criteria you use, Lori and I are spending some time with that kind of friends....The post Good Friends are Goo

My wife, who is not a big complainer, recently expressed frustration over the fact that sex is easier for me than it is for her. Shes right, and I wish it were not so. But heres the thing weve read a lot about...The post Understanding Your Wifes Se