We did a little poll on Facebook asking wives if they wanted lingerie for Christmas. Just under half said yes, some was nice, while only 8% said the more, the better. A full quarter said it was okay, but they saw it as a... The post FF: The Truth About Wi

We live on a more or less flat area up a mountain. Our road in is windy and gains a lot of elevation quickly. The other day as we were going out, we came upon a car with a big Christmas tree on top...The post Selfishness is on the Rise: Be Kind to Your

Yesterday, I posted The Ultimate Guy Gift Giving Guide over on The XY Code. Id love to post a similar guide here for you gentlemen, but I cant. Maybe part of it is that Im not a woman. But more than that, I find...The post Best Gift for Any Woman A

Do you and your wife give each other Christmas gifts? Perhaps a better question would be, Does she expect a gift from you? The whole Its the thought that counts thing is mostly true. And that means doing it right requires some real thought....The po

A couple of weeks ago, I talked about Sexual Selfishness in Marriage. Today, I want to discuss passive sexual selfishness. That means just going along with sexual things that work for you, but dont work for her. One common form of this is saying...The p

Do you have a handle on your past, and what it can cause you to do or not do? When you feel the urge to react out of your past, are able to choose not to follow those urges. And if you can usually...The post FF: Breaking Free From Your Past: Gaining Cont

I have a love hate thing going with the website Your Tango. Occasionally they have an article that is good and could help couples. But all too often, the articles treat couples as one size fits all. Even worse, some of it is just... The post Reflecting th

So its once again time for me to ask for donations. Lori and I put a lot of time and effort into what we do to minster to marriages. Were able to give it so much because of the donations we receive. And about...The post Please Help Us Do Marriage Mini

Over on The XY Code last Friday, I wrote a post entitled Just Do Him! Yes, its about exactly what you think its about. My point was that being regularly refused by your spouse hurts. And the easy way to stop the hurt would...The post Flipping the Scrip

Ive been seeing a lot about The Kivin Method recently in my feeds. Id never heard of it, so I did some digging. It seems to have made a splash on some Internet Message boards in 2003. It has slowly worked its way into...The post Understanding the Kivin