Is it the big things or little things in life that most determine our happiness? According to How to Dodge Buyer’s Remorse, a blog post with some good sources listed, it’s the little things. “In other words happiness comes from the small pleasures in... T

The elder who did communion at our church last Sunday said something very interesting. He said communion is a practice, not a ritual. A ritual, he explained, is something done to try to influence God. A practice, he said, it’s something we do because... T

It’s been awhile since I’ve mentioned Sabbath. If you’ve missed it, after playing with the idea for years, a decade ago Lori and I started making Wednesday our Sabbath. It’s a day of rest for our bodies and our minds. It’s a day to... The post Sabbath: Fi

Its been almost twelve weeks since Valentines Day. Have you given your wife a gift since then? And if her birthday or your anniversary were in there, did you give her a gift for any other reason? Tuesday is a great reason to give...The post Spontaneous

I warned you recently about the problems that can come from putting your marriage into autopilot mode. But what about doing sex on autopilot? Its easy to slip into sex autopilot. You find something that works, and you stick with it. The more trouble...T

In her book The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want(Kindle), Sonja Lyubomirsky mentions a study done by Pennsylvania State University. A group of students was told to hug at least five times a day for four weeks, and...The post

Ive talked about busyness a good deal here, with some of it being a confession. And apparently plenty of you worry about this; my post The Sin of Busyness was the fifth most read post the year I wrote it. Ive talked about how...The post Your Mind Nee

The maxim that people dont change is wrong. Ive changed over my 39 years of marriage, and so has my wife. And Ive seen plenty of other husbands and wives change. Some big changes, some small, and some ongoing. Real change, significant lasting change,..

When we go to church, Lori and I can take as many as four kids with us. Today it was just me and the five-year-old grandson. For thirty-five minutes both ways. We had a blast, but I realised I give my grandson a lot... The post The Power of Choosing to Gi

Mixing it up a bit sexually can be a good thing. But its important to make sure what we do is good for our wife. So let me suggest something different that most women can enjoy. Simply put, you sit behind her and make...The post Sit Behind Her and Give