A ran across a study that found mental fatigue can lead to increased aggression and uncooperative behaviour due to changes in the brain’s frontal cortex. This would explain why I have to work harder to be nice to Lori when I’ve spent hours doing coding. A

Lori and I keep seeing ads for Georgie & Mandys First Marriage. Yes, I know why its called that. I still hate the title and what it suggests. That said, Id like to talk to you about your second marriage. To the woman you currently call your wife. Lori

What might happen if you made a point of doing one small act of kindness for your wife every day? Some might be so small they dont register with her, but they will add up. She will feel better loved and more accepted. She may not know why she feels that

I know the holidays means low or no sex for some couples. Often the husband wants to, but the wife is too busy. And sometimes they both want more sex, but theyre too tired to make it happen. If you want to try to change that this year, ask your wife what

Ive mentioned the importance of a couples vacation before. And I will do so again. I know youve a long list of reasons you cant possibly do it. I can only counter with this: doing it is very good for your marriage. You need a chance to get away togeth

On Tuesday, I talked about being unkind to folks. I talked about the assumptions I made about peoples intelligence, integrity, and decency. And those assumptions are the real problem. I justified my wrong behaviour based on my assumptions. How we treat f

This is not specifically a marriage post. But it is a marriage issue for many. Ive been aware of the ongoing breakdown of basic civility. This last election cycle certainly did a lot of damage, but we were well down the road before that. Some have sugges

Its easy to invalidate your wifes reality. You can do it without meaning to do so, and without having a clue youve done it. Her perception may or may not be accurate, but its still what she sees and how she feels. Dismissing that makes her feel disres

For women, good sex is all about timing. First, you have to pick a good time to have sex. That means shes not tired or stressed. It means she has enough time to not feel rushed. And it means youve been loving and decent recently. As you move from do ya

When I wrote this a dozen years ago, I said, There has been a lot of hype about testosterone the last few years. I say hype because the claims have run way ahead of the science. Science has mostly caught up, so Ive modified accordingly. There are those