I got the expected push-back from saying porn is not addictive. I know a lot of Christian groups and some secular ones say it is an addiction. But they base this on something less than solid science. The hard science says it’s not. There is a difference b

Ever since I stopped making a living doing very physical labour, Ive struggled with my weight. I like food; I enjoy flavour. A couple of times I have dropped a good deal of weight. And while Ive not always kept it all off, its been fifteen years since

I use AI to suggest titles and SEO data for my posts. And every time I put in something about porn, what it kicks back includes the words porn addiction. Heres the thing; porn addiction is not a real thing. Addiction is a word that has a specific meani

If you want to have great sex, you have to make your bedroom a great place to have sex. So lets look at some things that make a bedroom sex friendly for a woman: Temperature: Women run cooler than men. If the temperature is good for you, shes probably c

In, What do you mean by need? I said I felt sorry for anyone living with a spouse who only felt they had to meet needs, not wants. Of course, its not that clear in most marriages. Were happy to give what we like to give, and whats not too difficult f

A common excuse for porn use is I do it because my wife says no to sex. Or refuses to do oral or wont have sex with the lights on. If you looked at porn before you were married, this excuse is not valid. Your wifes sexual reluctance may be a trigg

Today, I want to deal with the lies and excuses we use to avoid dealing with porn. We tell ourselves these things because doing so makes us feel better about not ending our porn use. Its Not Really Wrong: Ive had guys try to use the Bible to prove this.

Are you a porn again Christian? Youve stopped a number of times, and just keep falling back into it? First, no condemnation. Second, we can walk away and stay away. Most of us first saw porn before puberty. Maybe we stumbled on it, maybe someone introduc

You have no doubt heard of the orgasm gap. If you have somehow managed to miss it, the short version is when a man has sex with a woman, he is far more likely to come than she is. Most of the time when this is discussed, the gist of it is this happens bec

Recently I said: If your spouse has a need, either you do your best to provide it, or you do not. The first is loving, the second is not. What we often hear when we talk about needs is Thats not a need, its a want. My first thought, which I usually