Sometimes, spicing things up in a long term relationship isn't so easy. What happens when your requests to try something new in the bedroom are met with hostility and anger? In this episode, we offer some advice to a listener who wants to try new things and improve her sex life, but when she asks for what she wants her husband becomes defensive. We suggest some erotic communication aikido to transform the situation into an opportunity for more connection and intimacy, while keeping her own boundaries intact and respecting her needs and desires.