Simple on Purpose | Intentional Living and Parenting

Simple on Purpose | Intentional Living and Parenting


76. Why it matters what you think (limiting mindsets in motherhood)

October 15, 2020

I used to be a big skeptic of limiting mindsets. I mean, how would I have a thought I'm not even aware of? And how would this thought somehow keep me stuck?

Since I have learned more about the science behind it and how our thought life is really running the show I can see this everywhere. I can see how our mindsets limit our motherhood experience, our relationships, our drive, really - everything. 

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Here are the main things I have learned that have really opened my eyes to the reality and practical application of limiting mindsets.
We have conscious thoughts and subconscious thoughts. This is the iceberg with our conscious thoughts on the surface.  The majority of our daily reactions, habits, routines are coming from our subconscious thoughts - they don't require our attention and energy.

Creating a whole network of subconscious thoughts is one of the three jobs of our brain - it keeps it efficient. If you stop and think, you can see a lot of areas of your life where you can notice the subconscious thoughts have taken over operation

The subconscious thoughts are like the program running on a computer. The program is developed through personal experience and exposure - our upbringing, our culture and our past really form a lot of subconscious thought patterns. 

The limiting mindsets are those mindsets that are subconscious - running in the background and they are disempowering you. They aren't serving you to grow in the life you want.

It is not our brain's job to filter out limiting mindsets from empowering mindsets - that is something we have to do on purpose. 

These mindsets matter because we SHOW UP from them. I use the CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) model in coaching and it informs us that our thoughts create our emotion and we behave differently depending on how we feel. So the reason it matters is our experience of life matters. And our experience of life (feelings and actions, and their outcomes) come from our thoughts (conscious and subconscious). 

In this episode I have some examples for you around money scarcity, kids should always obey, people don't care about what I have to say, I'm a victim of motherhood, etc. 
Links Mentioned 
Episode 71: I let my kids do whatever they wanted for a day (abundance day)

Simplify for fall [sign up here]

The Simple on Purpose FB group [make sure to answer the entry questions]

Episode 40 : The not-enough mindset [scarcity and abundance mindset]

Enneagram 101

The Life on Purpose Academy [closed until December, sign up here to be on the waitlist]

Episode 67: Making motherhood harder than it needs to be [mom martyr]