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SWM 149 – My daughter’s speech – Transgenderism is a lie
Today we’re going to do something a little bit different. For those who have been listening for more than a year, you know that my kids are in 4H and every year they have to deliver a speech. For the last few years, my eldest daughter has been delivering speeches about transgenderism based on her research and her own personal experiences. Now, these are difficult topics, and in a lot of cases, she gets, angry judges who mark her poorly simply because of the topic and her stance on it. And it’s easy to think that, oh, that’s just her father thinking that she should have scored better, but when a large number of people every year come to her afterwards telling her how impactful her speech was, how they don’t understand how she couldn’t have placed higher or sometimes at all, when the scoring comes back with no notes, only a bad score, and every year people tell her that she should be talking to churches about this, it’s hard to think otherwise. This year we had an elected government official say she should be speaking to the government about this and sharing her perspectives. This year she actually won at the local level and the district level before getting shot down at the regional level, and the same thing happened. We even had people tell us they went to the judges afterwards to ask them if they made a mistake because so much of the audience thought she was the clear winner, and then she didn’t even place in the top three, which would have let her go on to the provincial level. During her speech, I saw multiple people in tears in the audience, and I didn’t see that for any of the other speakers.So, as has been our tradition for the last three years, we wanted to share this one with you as well in the hopes that it might impact you. So this is my daughter’s speech titled Transgenderism is a Lie.Transgenderism is a lie, a sham, and it promises false hope Hello listeners.I imagine for people who have never experienced gender dysphoria that it’s hard to understand the desire to go through social or medical transition. It’s a very time-consuming, painful and sometimes difficult process. But I understand. I’ve been on that side.Today, I want to share how the normalization of gender dysphoria is drawing people to choose transition in hopes that you can understand and be compassionate.The majority of people who choose transition are young adults and kids uncomfortable with the body they find themselves in. I was and still am one of them. I hate the body I live in. I’ve hated it since before I even understood what the word dysphoria or puberty meant. I was an early bloomer, and my gender dysphoria made itself very apparent when I noticed I was different from my peers. I was completely and utterly uncomfortable with how I looked and felt. Of course, I had people tell me this was normal, but I didn’t see it. If anything I saw the opposite. I read books about girls being excited to develop and late bloomers being upset they didn’t fit in, and that was something I just never could understand. There was nothing I wouldn’t have given to go back to the body I had. That’s a lot to think about as an 11 and 12-year-old. I still think about myself like that on most days. I don’t enjoy living in the body I have. I find it an inconvenience, and it doesn’t feel like it’s mine most of the time. I can’t remember a time when I could look in the mirror and not feel a little like I’m just looking at a game character I happen to be in control of, instead of myself.There is a good chance those feelings won’t ever go away. I’m only 18, and our brains are very plastic, so nothing is set in stone. But it’s been almost 8 years. I’m not expecting the dysphoria to completely go away anymore, and that’s okay because I’ve learned how to cope and live with it. For example,