You’ve decided to try and save your marriage (good for you!).  But whenever you talk with family, friends, or even some professionals, they tell you to give up and walk away. How do you keep from getting derailed by the negativity? First,

You’ve been working hard to reconnect and change yourself.  You’re proud of your efforts.  But your spouse just isn’t buying. For whatever reason (which is what I discuss in this week’s podcast), your spouse just does not trust the changes — or maybe d...

I was discussing a situation with a client.  He told me he was confused.  His wife avoided emotions.  Except she would explode in anger.  He couldn’t figure it out.  He tended to avoid conflict, but expressed his emotions.  “What gives?” Well,

You might feel like “tapping out,” or forfeiting, just giving up and walking away. It can be frustrating when you are trying to save a marriage, only to get pushback from a spouse.  You are working to build the connection, working to improve yourself,

aI have watched from the sidelines as people work to save their marriage.  And it strikes me that there are three secrets people who save their marriage learn and master.  If you don’t know these secrets, you need to. What are those 3 secrets?

The conversation starts innocently enough.  Someone wants help saving a marriage.  They tell me about the disconnection haunting the relationship.  They tell me about the hurts and struggles.  They tell me they are desperate to turn things around.

That one phrase has sent more marriages into a downward spiral than any other:  “I love you, but I’m not IN LOVE with you.” What does that even mean? Notice that the phrase is uttered BECAUSE things are not where they need to be.

Sounds so philosophical, doesn’t it?  Your “created past.”  What is that? We all do it.  We remember things based on our emotional state, not on what happened. When someone hurts us, we think back on the other times they hurt us.

Over and over, I see the same two “modes” killing marriages — all without intention or maliciousness. The hurt and pain often lead to anger and resentment down the road.  But it simply starts in innocence.  Most people don’t even know they are operatin...

Whenever I get the same questions over and over, I decide it is time to do a podcast.  And this came up just a couple of days ago.  The person on the other end of the phone call said, “Why should I even try?  If I don’t save my marriage,