If you have listened long to my podcasts, you probably know that I am not big on separations.  In fact, unless there is some physical risk, I discourage separations.  I think they run counter to working on a relationship. But. . . sometimes,

Every now and then, I get an angry email or phone call.  But this one. . . He started out nice enough:  “Are you the guy that has that save your marriage system online?” “Yes.  Can I help you?” “So,” he continued,

Today, I tackle a pretty sensitive subject:  the difference between “Doing The Right Thing” and “Doing It Right.” Let me be very clear:  I believe that working to save your marriage is heroic work.  It is pretty counter-cultural in our world of “throw ...

“I just don’t feel it,” two people told me this week.  One didn’t feel like following the plan to save their marriage.  The other didn’t feel it for the spouse.  One wanted to save the marriage.  The other didn’t.

There are some questions that can help a marriage.  There are many thoughts that can improve your relationship. But there is one question that will suck the life right out of a marriage.  And it is a question you don’t even need to ask another person,

You are working on your marriage.  You reach out toward your spouse. . . only to feel rejected. After that stops you in your tracks.  You start doubting yourself, your efforts, your plan. . . . STOP. What if your spouse was not really intending to reje...

It almost seems redundant, doesn’t it?  If you have limited beliefs, they could limit something — say, for example, your marriage. I say IF you have limited beliefs. Full disclosure:  We ALL have limited beliefs that are limiting us.

A few days ago, that was what he said on the phone, “I won’t work on my marriage if my spouse won’t.” Now note:  he had contacted me — I help people save their marriage. “Huh?” I uttered. “Look,” he said, “if you think I am going to start working on my...

If you follow me much, you know I am not a huge supporter of marital therapy.  On the other hand, Relationship Coaching can be a powerful tool in your efforts to save your marriage. Many people use my Save The Marriage System and need no further help.

“I want to save my marriage,” she told me, “but can it actually be worth it?  If I do the work, and we don’t get divorced, will our marriage ever be good?” I’ve had this same question many times in my career.  I replied with my same response,