Nothing gets your focus and attention like a crisis. But sometimes, that Crisis Clarity isn't so helpful. - Let's backtrack just a minute. What is Crisis Clarity? - Just for a moment, let's assume t

I cant count how many times a couple has come to me for help with our communication skills. Funny thing is, they communicate just fine. - Then why are they stuck in conflict? Why are they disconn

At the beginning of a coaching session, my clients often tell me what they have been focused on in their marriage crisis. Almost always, they are focusing on the wrong things. - And in the process, t

The email was pages long, all about the problems in her marriage. Each line was about how her husband had ruined the marriage. She pointed out actions of her husband, and he did make mistakes (no ab

Have you done an online search for info on how to save your marriage? Were you overwhelmed with the results?? And the crazy amount of different approaches?? - How do you sort through them? How do yo

Does your brain help or hinder your efforts to save your marriage? - If you are like most people, your brain is actually a barrier in your efforts. It keeps you stuck in old, unhelpful patterns. And

Do you feel like you are stuck in limbo? That crazy spot where you cant move forward, but arent ending things? Is it a spouse who has you stuck there? - Well, that was the situation for J. He w

Maybe you have heard these lines: "Love should just happen." "This is just too much work." "I'm not feeling it, so it must not be true love." "I just don't feel the attraction/excitement I used

Let me say it here, in writing: I am NOT opposed to marital therapy. I am quite concerned, however, on how marital therapy happens now. I am concerned about the effectiveness of marital therapy. A

Many times, I watch couples caught in a spiral of accusations, each convinced of maliciousness on the part of their spouse. But I don't think that is actually it. - In fact, many times, both people i