What is a "mind mode"?  This is what happens when your brain is caught in a state.  Sometimes, it is held hostage to a reactive state.  Other times, you get to choose a shift. The dangerous modes are all reactive, based in fear, threat, and the desire to win (or at least be right).  Then there are 2 other modes that you can choose to adopt. On automatic, in the midst of a relationship crisis, the 4 dangerous modes grab you and call the shots.  When you take your mind off automatic, you get to call the shots. Here are the 4 destructive modes: Flight Fight Right Spite Which mode grips you?  The dangerous (and destructive) modes or the constructive modes? RELATED RESOURCES: What's Your Why? What's Your Plan? Show Up Shift Your Mode