Its your choice, I reassured her. It was a call I picked up between sessions. The person told me she had been following my System, but wasnt sure if she could keep it up. She wasnt sure if it

I wish this only happened every now and then. - Imagine, for a second, that someone is working on saving their marriage. In this case, they have chosen to use my System. And they are making progres

One more argument. One more struggle. They sat on my couch, facing each other down as opponents in some contest to... win... well, to be honest, I don't know what they were trying to win. Because t

Fears. They can certainly derail us humans! - But what about relationship fears? Just those basic fears and insecurities that we all carry with us in relationships? - Yep, we all have them. 2 basic

Games should be fun. But the games we are talking about today are NOT fun. - These are patterns of interaction and communication. - The design is to get a need met. But behind it is a dysfunction.

Is your marriage crisis marked by heated arguments or cold distance? Hot or cold? - Are they really that different? Or is it all a part of the same process? And how does it affect your attempts to

Maybe your spouse has been saying, "This is ALL YOUR FAULT!" Or maybe it is just you... wondering... torturing yourself... about whether this marriage crisis is your fault. Are you the problem? - Le

Miranda asked me, What do I do? My spouse is hopeless that we can save our marriage. Im losing hope, too." - A while back, I did a training for members of my VIP Program, noting three barriers in t

When life is hard, Holidays can feel heavy. When there is a marriage crisis, it can be tough to muster the energy to even move forward especially when all the commercials and movies push the merry

"In our very first session, our therapist told me that we were divorcing and I need to accept it," Claire wrote. - I invited people to submit questions. And Claire did. (You can, too, by EMAILING HERE