Let me say it here, in writing: I am NOT opposed to marital therapy. I am quite concerned, however, on how marital therapy happens now. I am concerned about the effectiveness of marital therapy. A

Many times, I watch couples caught in a spiral of accusations, each convinced of maliciousness on the part of their spouse. But I don't think that is actually it. - In fact, many times, both people i

Just to be clear, I am ALL FOR forgiveness. I have talked about on the Save The Marriage Podcast and on my Thriveology Podcast. - And in a marriage, there are ample opportunities to practice forgivin

I used to notice how often an engaged couple would become so focused on getting married -- the wedding -- that they had a hard time focusing on what the process of being married would be. - The reaso

There are lots of mistakes people make in their efforts to save their marriage. This particular mistake is what I consider to be the 3rd biggest. I hear it in the questions people send me every sin

Sometimes, just a hint or trick will do it. Maybe you want a trick or hint for an online game. Or even a trick for a better pancake. A hint for a better pushup. - But hints and tricks wont work fo

I know it hurts. And I know that the pain, the anger, and the frustration can get you to act in ways that are not helpful. - Lots of people are not sure about what TO do (which is why I created the S

So, what DO you do when apathy strikes? It might be YOUR apathy. But more likely, it will be your spouse's apathy. (And it might be both of you!) It just seems there is no emotion, no care, no conce

Have you ever been sucked into a situation or argument, then realized your actions were not what you wanted? - There is that split second, that pause, where you get to choose your response. - Many peo

Its your choice, I reassured her. It was a call I picked up between sessions. The person told me she had been following my System, but wasnt sure if she could keep it up. She wasnt sure if it