It can be habit.  You see that look or hear a comment, you hear a raised voice or see something that makes you wonder.  And you react.

And your reaction only causes further problems.

Reactions are "knee-jerk."  They are rarely thought-out, and almost always counter-productive.

And the next time, it happens again.

You are stuck in "Reactive Soup," as I call it.

While the behavior is understandable, it is not likely to be getting you anywhere you want to be.  It is likely NOT helping your relationship.  And it probably leaves you frustrated with yourself (unless you are still stuck blaming your spouse).

Oh, sure, you could rationalize why this isn't your fault and why it isn't your problem.

But it is.

Only you can make a change.  Your reactions are not getting you where you want to get, so let's get them changed.

Listen below to learn why you react, and how to stop.