I wish this only happened every now and then.

Imagine, for a second, that someone is working on saving their marriage.  In this case, they have chosen  to use my System.  And they are making progress! (Yay!)

Then... they decide to do something else... add something on... try to "spice up" their approach.  And suddenly, their efforts fall apart.

The other day, I was talking with someone who falls into this approach.  Making great progress using my material.  Then losing all progress when they added on some more "save your marriage" stuff they found on the internet.

"I guess your approach doesn't work," this person said.  I pointed out that my approach was, in fact, working... until they stopped using it and went with pretty much the exact opposite of what I recommend.

No surprise, but their spouse was confused.  And this person said, "I don't get it!  It was supposed to save my marriage!"

I asked, "Did you 'look under the hood' to see what was behind that approach?  Did you wonder if it is compatible with what you were already doing?"  I knew the answer before I asked, and I could tell I was correct from the confused "umm... I... well... uh... what do you mean?" that I heard back.

Let me be the first to say, there is some great information out there on saving your marriage.

And there is also a lot of steaming piles of