Ever wonder if your trauma means you're destined to parent imperfectly? In today's episode, Theraplay expert Dafna Lender shares how all parents mess up - and that's actually okay!

As a clinical psychologist and post-traumatic parent myself, I was fascinated by Dafna's perspective on how we can provide healthy childhoods despite our own wounds. She compassionately explains why parents with trauma histories often experience such crushing self-doubt and offers practical ways to rebuild connection through play. What struck me most was Dafna's story about a mother and adopted daughter who transformed their relationship over two years of treatment - proving healing is possible even in the most challenging circumstances.

 

If you've ever frozen during a parenting moment, felt triggered by your child's behavior, or wondered if you're "too damaged" to parent well, this conversation will reassure you that repair is always possible. You'll learn why those moments when your kids push your buttons can become opportunities for growth rather than shame.

Topics covered on Theraplay:How does parental trauma affect our ability to be responsive to our children's needs?Why do we feel like our children are "triggering" us, and what can we do about those moments?What happens when professionals exclude parents from their child's therapy sessions?How can theraplay help rebuild damaged relationships between parents and children?Why do parents without secure attachment models experience more self-doubt?How can we explain our trauma responses to our children in age-appropriate ways?How long does it really take to repair damaged attachments between parents and children?

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For full show notes and more resources visit https://www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/05/09/theraplay-healin…ith-dafna-lender