Welcome back to another episode of the Post-Traumatic Parenting podcast! In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Brie Turns-Coe, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and together we discuss how to parent the child you have, not the child you were, and how to provide your children with a healthy childhood. Dr. Brie Turns-Coe emphasizes the importance of recognizing the unique needs of each child rather than parenting based on our own childhood experiences or the opposite of them. We also delve into the topic of post-traumatic parenting, how to identify it, including speaking to your inner child and understanding what you needed as a child versus what your child needs now. We touch on the challenges of parenting a child with psychodiversity, the importance of recognizing and meeting our own unmet needs as post-traumatic parents, the harmful effects of spanking, why it is not an effective form of discipline, and more.

Topics covered on Parent the Child You Have, Not the Child You Were for Post-traumatic Parents:

• Are you unknowingly parenting based on the opposite or the same methods as your own parents?
• How can you focus on the unique individuality of your child instead of your own inner child?
• Healing without placing unnecessary blame on your parents.
• Strategies you can implement to create a safe and nurturing environment for your child.
• How can we avoid playing trauma poker and acknowledge each other's challenges?
• How to identify and heal your own childhood as a post-traumatic parent?
• Meeting your children's needs without forcing your unmet needs onto them.
• Different parenting styles across generations.
• Navigating the challenges of post-traumatic parenting in the digital age.
• Benefits of addressing personal traumas and unresolved issues before starting a family.
• What are some alternative options for post-traumatic parents to talk to their children about them without passing their own hang-ups?
• The importance of allowing your body to release trauma through shaking and other physical responses naturally.

Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology. For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/07/26/parent-the-child…h-brie-turns-coe