In this episode, Dr. Lisa chats with registered social worker Aneeqa Aslam all about building our kids’ intrinsic self esteem by focusing on value-based goals as opposed to achievement-based goals. Aneeqa shares how important it is to connect first, before correcting our kids, and allowing time and space for them to be heard and supported. One of the biggest things we can do to nurture our kids’ mental health and social relationships is getting them offline and allowing them to challenge their bodies and minds with activities such as learning how to play a musical instrument or developing their art skills or sport’s skills. Aneeqa also shares the warning signs to look out for if your kid is being bullied, and what to do about it to support them.

As a registered social worker, Aneeqa loves being a therapist, and has worked with clients in both inpatient and outpatient settings throughout her career. She holds degrees from the University of Toronto and McMaster University, and really enjoys connecting with people as they navigate challenges in their lives.

Aneeqa was previously a guest on Episode 240: How to Foster Independence, Trust, Confidence and Focus in Our Kids. You can listen HERE.

In today’s episode, we cover:

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• Why you want to get your kids offline and to disconnect from social media more often
  
• The importance of having your kids experience challenge and flow state to develop self-confidence
  
• How listening to your kids to understand without fixing is important for your kids to feel heard aka Connection Before Correction
  
• The importance of self-regulating your emotions as a parent to be centered, grounded and present when dealing with emotional reactions from your kids
  
• How your self-awareness of your expectations can impact your interactions with your kids
  
• The 2 different sets of goals you can set in your household with your kids
  
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  • Values based 
    
  • Achievement based
    
  
  
  
• What signs you need to watch for to know if your child is being bullied
  
• The importance of listening and understanding your kids to prevent bullying and to mitigate the effects of bullying
  

You can connect with Aneeqa at aneeqa@tsptherapy.ca

Today’s Mama Must-Have: 

Dr. Lisa loves her old school alarm clock for Stuart’s room to slowly wake up to music. 

Aneeqa is a big fan of travel and experiences as a reset for herself to be able to give more of herself.

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