When it comes to holiday support for Black women, it often looks like doing everything for everyone else — with little space to be supported yourself.

In this short but powerful Support Snippet, Shirl offers a tender nudge to come back to yourself. To stop waiting until everything’s done to take a breath. And to remember that being supported isn’t something you have to earn.

If you’ve been running on fumes, putting everyone else first, or quietly holding a lot behind your smile — this one’s for you.

• Why this time of year feels especially heavy for strong Black women

• A reframe on what support actually looks like during the holidays

• A quiet invitation to make room for you — even if just for five minutes

Support doesn’t have to be big, expensive, or aesthetic.
It can be five quiet minutes.
It can be saying no.
It can be choosing you without guilt.

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• Take the Support Language™ Quiz. and learn how you actually receive support best.
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Shirl Hubbard is the creator of Support Languages™ and host of Shades of Strong® — a movement shifting the narrative from Strong Black Woman to Supported Black Woman™ through language, rest, and real support.