This season’s theme song is “Training Day,” by Infraction. Used with Permission.

















This is episode number 112: Your emotions.
Welcome to the Mindset for Life Podcast. This is Bethanie, your coach, from Dr. B coach.com, and I'm so excited to talk to you today. You know, one of the things that I take for granted in my life is what I know about emotions, how to manage them, where they come from, and how to shift a negative emotion into a positive emotion. I've been there. I have some expertise in this area. And I'd love to teach you a little bit about what I know.
First of all, let me ask you a few questions:

Do you ever find that somebody else's heavy, big emotions overwhelm you?
Do you ever feel like someone else's emotions are your fault or your responsibility?
Do you ever feel like it's someone else's fault that you feel something?

All of these things are pretty common thoughts to have, and they're not true. Interestingly, we are responsible for the way we feel, and what we think about things. So no one can be blamed about our emotions, and we cannot be responsible for other people's emotions. That's incredible, isn't it? So today, I'm going to talk to you about six main emotions, primary emotions people feel, and how this all happens that we think we are to blame or we blame other people for the way we feel, and how to stop doing it so you can have freedom and really feel like you're on top of things.





























You may be thinking, "I don't really know if I'm gonna listen to this topic."
Or you might be thinking, This is exactly what I need right now."
And I'm gonna guide you through the steps to figure it out. So let's start first with six emotions, people feel the most: mad, sad, scared, peaceful, powerful, and joyful. In fact, these six emotions are often the entire vocabulary somebody might have about how to talk about their feelings.
Not everyone has a huge emotional vocabulary. And if you were to ask me any given moment, I know I'm feeling things because emotions are part of just being human, right? But I may not be able to pinpoint exactly what a fine-tuned emotional name it is. There are so many more names than just those six I listed. But chances are, you primarily feel one or two of those emotions the most. Some people feel mad a lot, like they're angry all the time. And something will come along and provoke that anger. And then anger will be racing for this person, and maybe you are there. In my experience, anger is usually related to blame accusation. And I'm feeling like someone else needs to do something, but I can't control it. So the only thing I can do is get mad.
Anger is a huge and heavy emotion--very powerful. And like any emotion, there's a physical response to the way you feel. So mad often has like a racing heartbeat, it might have some heat physically associated with that. There might be a way we stand a way we hold our faces. All kinds of physical things happen when we feel mad or angry. Likewise, sad. So in my experience, sad is a pretty plain face. It might even include a drooping face or a little bit of a frown. And I might have this overwhelming physical sensation of just sluggishness. It's like, I'm slower, just not moving as fast. Now, some people can actually isolate exactly where in the body they feel sadness, can you do that?
That is a unique thing to be able to think about. And the more you can isolate how it feels, where in your body, you are noticing the sensation, what your face looks like, what your posture is like, what your temperature is like, and how you talk when you're feeling this emotion, the more you can really name it. Zero in and isolate it, it's not overwhelming anymore.
And then scared. So fear, I guess we could call it when we are afraid just like being...