Unfortunate ideas can get twisted in a person’s mind, leading them to have affairs; ideas like, “But if my wife were the right person…” We discuss this with author Matt Fray, and we also cover the question: Are emotional affairs truly affairs–and what can make it all less difficult? TIMESTAMPS (click on a time below to be taken to that section) 0:00 Intro / Defensiveness & intimidation 1:25 “I care about you, but I care about myself more” 2:20 Can be abusive (“don’t ruin my good time”) 3:21 Are emotional affairs truly affairs? * 6:39 One solution: Why not create that with your wife? 7:18 If (this) then it’s not difficult 7:42 This blindness can lead to affairs * 10:05 “But if my wife were the right person…” * 12:42 Getting help: what it is and isn’t 13:14 In the next episode: What if the goal is to have an affair? -- https://thecouplecure.com - Jay and Lori's website https://matthewfray.com - Matt's website https://pornpainhealed.com - Lori's site for betrayed partners https://porniskillingme.com - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery #defensiveness #affairs #emotionalaffairs #relationships