I used to go to meetings where we spent 5 minutes on sobriety and 55 minutes shooting the breeze. The truth? I liked it that way. In this video, we expose the 'Good Old Boy' network and why comfort is the enemy of real change. In this episode, Jay and Lori dive into the "soft accountability" trap that many men fall into. Jay confesses how he used to whitewash his relapses and how his accountability partners—including a church leader—failed to challenge him because they were struggling themselves. We discuss the "Good Old Boy Network" in recovery and why "nothing but grace" can actually be a form of enabling. In this video, we cover: - Why "passive accountability" is often worse than no accountability at all. - The "24-Hour Rule": Why Jay requires addicts to tell their wives about slips within 24 hours. - Why sobriety breeds sobriety and the importance of a mentor with long-term freedom. - The role of the church in addressing addiction and domestic abuse. Question for the comments: For Wives: What does real accountability look like to you in your husband's recovery? For Addicts: What could a mentor have said that would have finally "pierced the fog" for you? -- To Rebuild Trust - https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Betrayal Trauma - https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ Guys to Schedule a Free Call with Jay - https://porniskillingme.com/schedule-a-free-intro-call/ To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww -- Who is This Channel For? If porn addiction has you stuck--whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship--this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking. #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice #marriagerecovery #pornaddictionhelp #healingrelationships