What does real intimacy feel like after betrayal, addiction, and years of rebuilding trust? In this episode, we open up about how Jay’s ability to connect has changed over time — from fake vulnerability and performance to HONEST EMOTIONS and simple, humble presence. Jay shares how he used to seek physical intimacy to avoid emotions, and how healing has redefined what closeness feels like. We talk about the risks of being emotionally naked, the power of GIVING SACRIFICIALLY, and how intimacy now lives in the small moments we missed before. Topics we explore in this episode: – The quickest path to intimacy (hint: it's not sex) – What vulnerability really means – Giving to give vs. giving to get – Why 50/50 doesn’t fully heal relationships – Untangling emotional from physical intimacy – Presence: the real secret to connection If you’ve ever wondered what intimacy can look like after real healing — not just surviving but connecting deeply — this one is for you.   00:00 Intro and question 00:44 How Jay saw intimacy THEN vs NOW 03:38 But it's not this... 04:06 What intimacy looks like after healing the relationship 05:35 The QUICKEST way to intimacy 07:49 Giving to give vs. GIVING TO GET 09:02 Should it be 50/50? 09:55 Did Jay ‘fake it’ at church? 13:08 Qualities of vulnerability 14:53 Now intimacy 'is just there' 17:50 The main thing: Presence Leave a comment and let us know what touched you most. Subscribe for more episodes on healing from porn addiction and betrayal trauma. -- To Rebuild Trust - https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Betrayal Trauma - https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ To Recover from Addiction - https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/8wM6pe74F9LsdkA8ww -- Who is This Channel For? If porn addiction has you stuck--whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship--this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking. #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice #intimacyafterbetrayal #emotionalintimacy #rebuildingtrust #vulnerabilityheals #relationshiphealing