In this episode, recorded on New Year's Eve, we discuss the importance of having a solid plan to ensure your new year is better than the last. We delve into specific steps for making effective New Year's resolutions and highlight the significance of focus and new behaviors in achieving different outcomes. The episode offers guidance for addicts and their partners on formulating plans that go beyond mere intentions, and include practical action steps for accountability and sustained change. Timestamps 00:21 New Year, New You? (not without a different plan) 01:28 For the addict (look yourself in the eye) 02:01 Try a different January 02:49 Ask yourself these questions 03:31 If the answer is “No” 04:51 A FIRST STEP (a DIFFERENT starting point)* 05:23 The Critical SECOND STEP* 07:45 For the partner 08:10 The THIRD STEP 08:36 The FORTH STEP (Solution: times and tribes)* 10:25 Multi-plans 11:11 Solution: The CSI Investigation 13:23 Solution: Arrange to pay your enemy 14:20 If you still don’t reach your goals -- https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ - Jay and Lori's website https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ - Lori's site for betrayed partners https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice