In this episode, we explore how addicts truly change by focusing on the impact of experiencing true pain and loss. Divided into two parts—one for non-Christians and the other for Christians—we discuss the significance of giving up power, inspired by scripture, to become truly healed and dependent on God. With references to personal anecdotes, men’s magazines, 12-step programs, and the idea of renouncing 'boss' culture, the script emphasizes humility, acceptance of weakness, and the power of community support in the journey of recovery. The transformation journey includes practical examples and scripture, highlighting the importance of growth and moving beyond survival mechanisms to achieve true healing and integration into healthy, supportive communities. 00:00 Intro 00:43 The first way addicts change 01:21 Something else that can help 01:36 Majestic splendor 03:11 The power-over dynamic (helpless? dependent?) 04:34 What it might look like 04:59 Be the boss? 06:24 Solution regarding addictive thinking (what it looks like in practical terms) 07:47 Why the power-over dynamic might come up 08:55 Outgrowing it 09:46 Objections (but who is stronger?) 11:22 Solution: You’re on land now (returning from the war) -- https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ - Jay and Lori's website https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ - Lori's site for betrayed partners https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice