***Trigger Warning: Given the sensitive nature of this topic, please proceed cautiously.*** Jay and Lori tackle the struggle of not feeling physically desired by the husband. They explore the intricate dynamics of femininity, desire, and physical appearance within a marriage. The discussion delves into misconceptions about desire versus lust. Lori shares her personal journey of reclaiming her own femininity, and how it started with unlikely sources. The episode also addresses the risks of a guy who only stays on the surface, encouraging listeners to cultivate confidence, while building a relationship where desire is communicated. Timestamps 00:00 Introduction, (deeply vulnerable) question & the 3 issues we’ll address 01:11 Addicts are surprisingly prudish (one solution)* 04:00 Traditionally gorgeous women are cheated on (his looks) 05:42 Society confuses desire all the time (the part in us screaming to be desired) 08:08 Solution: Femininity and how I reclaimed mine* 09:16 What my Counselor said about arm-candy 10:39 Healing on our Saturday Dates (with other men?)* 13:14 It’s usually about “novelty” (… or his maturity) 15:26 Appealing to THAT side of men 16:20 Changing the conversation where desire = lust (solution: what helped Jay) 17:11 Becoming addicted to your wife 18:00 Generalized vs Specialized Sexuality (fetishes vs “I really like her!”)* -- https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ - Jay and Lori's website https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ - Lori's site for betrayed partners https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice