There are many things I wish I had known right after D-Day… things that would have helped me recover more quickly. In this video, I cover several of them, and Jay gives extra input from the addict-who’s-found-sobriety point of view. (Please note: We do not condone hitting your spouse. If this is happening, please reach out to your local shelters/authorities.) Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 0:23 Coming down hard on yourself regarding boundaries 0:55 I’m in!!! I’m out!!! (what many guys do with this and one Solution) 2:46 Solution: How to find safe people & safe counselors 5:05 One way to keep from being blinded: Change your job description (Guys, nurse her back to health) 8:16 Solution to “falling for lines” 9:53 One clear sign Jay was taking his addiction recovery seriously 10:22 Solution to “You’re being too sensitive!” 11:16 Getting back at him / betraying yourself 12:58 Some addicts think, “It’s a license to keep acting out” -- https://thecouplecure.com - Jay and Lori's website https://pornpainhealed.com - Lori's site for betrayed partners https://porniskillingme.com - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice