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Latest Episodes
How to Rebuild Trust When He Feels Attacked (“this is stupid”) – 4.25S
What caused Jay to take all of this more seriously (even if he felt attacked)? And what would cause Matt to say, This is stupid! We cover both of those here, in this LAST EPISODE OF THE SEASON.
One Thing Some Guys Resent (ways to build trust instead) – 4.24S
Transitioning from dating to marriage has its challenges, even without addictions. But healing a relationship after betrayal is even more challenging. Here are some things you can do to make the proc
One Thing Many Guys Hide (honesty isn’t enough) – 4.23S
Rebuilding trust takes more than honest answers to the questions you are asked. You have to share what is going on for you without being prompted. This is huge in rebuilding trust after betrayal. TIME
2 Ways to Connect after Broken Trust (sharing this) – 4.22S
Connection doesnt just happen. You have to make plans and create opportunities to connect. This episode shows specific ways to do this that may work better for both partners. TIMESTAMPS (click on a
How to Find Real Satisfaction (trauma-fueled distractions?) – 4.21S
This video covers some brain science behind video games. We also discuss how Jay replaced his entertainment addiction with a bigger life so he could finally feel satisfied. TIMESTAMPS (click on a t
How Entertainment Actually Helped After Betrayal (learning but not applying) – 4.20S
This episode covers video games and hobbies, and how being distracted by learning things can harm trust restoration. We also discuss how entertainment actually helped our relationship. TIMESTAMPS (
2 Kinds of Values & 2 Other Addictions (how to name emotions) – 4.19S
In this video we discuss two addictions we havent covered before, as well as 2 different kinds of values. WE also discuss the issue of faking vulnerability. - TIMESTAMPS (click on a time below to b
How to Know: Should You Stay or Go (“I am more important than…”) – 4.18S
How do you know if you should stay or go? And what would cause Lori to say, I am more important than ___? We discuss those topics with author and coach, Matthew Fray, as well as what if he never ge
What if He’s NOT ‘All In’? (is he clueless, toxic… or teachable?) – 4.17S
In this conversation with Matthew Fray, we discuss different viewpoints if it appears the guy isnt all in. We also cover one thing Lori HAD to start trusting Jay would do. TIMESTAMPS (click on
How to Stop Mistreating Her (empathy and validation) – 4.16S
How can a guy keep himself from mistreatingor even abusinghis partner? And how do you even start talking about those behaviors? Those are a couple of topics we discuss with author Matthew Fray in