“I just found out that my husband has been having an emotional affair. I can’t stop shaking. Do I have Betrayal Trauma?”

Why Does Betrayal Trauma Hurt So Badly?

If you’re experiencing Betrayal Trauma, your husband may have been or may still be emotionally and psychologically abusive that caused the betrayal and the trauma. Behaviors like:

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• Lying
  
• Manipulation
  
• Gaslighting
  
• Financial control & secrecy
  
• Secrets about his sexual behaviors
  
• Sexual coercion
  
• Verbal abuse
  

Am I Overreacting or Am I Traumatized?

If you’re second-guessing whether or not you have Betrayal Trauma, take a look at the list of symptoms below. Keep in mind that not every victim will experience every symptom. And please remember – it’s normal to be deeply affected by your husband’s betrayal. You’re not crazy or overreacting.

26 Symptoms of Betrayal Trauma

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2. Helplessness
   
3. Sleeplessness
   
4. Immobility
   
5. Reliving the event
   
6. Hyper-vigilance
   
7. Anxiety
   
8. Nightmares
   
9. Intrusive images
   
10. Withdrawing
    
11. Avoidance
    
12. Mood swings
    
13. Panic attacks
    
14. Phobias
    
15. Flashbacks
    
16. Denial
    
17. Over-sensitivity
    
18. Depression
    
19. Restlessness
    
20. Confusion
    
21. Dissociation
    
22. Inability to eat
    
23. Overeating
    
24. Rage
    
25. Health problems
    
26. Chronic fatigue
    
27. Immune/endocrine system problems
    

I Have Betrayal Trauma – What Next?

First and foremost, please offer yourself radical compassion as you come to accept that you’re experiencing Betrayal Trauma. At BTR, we encourage victims to focus on their own emotional safety and wellness as the first priority.

To do that you need to learn more about what’s been happening to you. Listen to The FREE Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast for more information about what’s really going on and how to find peace.

Choose to Focus on Your Emotional Safety & Wellness

You didn’t cause your husband to betray you. But now that you know, you will need support. Please know that you are NOT alone.

At BTR, we know the seemingly endless and daunting devastation of betrayal trauma. The horror of realizing that your life is not what you thought it was. We understand the loneliness of waking up next to someone who has broken your heart. We know the anger and sadness that seems all-consuming.

Our BTR.ORG Group Sessions are a safe space for you to process these difficult feelings and find a community of women who understand your pain. Attend today and begin your journey to healing.