If we could see inside each other have you ever thought about that we would see? I think we would see so much that is similar. Similar insecurities,  thoughts and feelings. All with each person's unique flavour of course but similar all the same. I t

Noisily searching to be calm was something I was doing that for a long time. It involved trying to control a lot. I tried to maintain a circumstances, make changes and repeating certain practises so I could be calm. But all that was done within a misunder

You cannot argue with a drunk person. I mean have you ever tried that. When I was a teacher, I quite often was the designated driver. That meant I was the sober one amongst many drunk people. Hysterical at points but very frustrating at others because hav

'What are you making up?', is a question I used to ask when I was a headteacher :-) But as I ask it now, it is in a very different way. Because all day every day, we are all making things up. In fact, human beings have been making things up for years. Roo

Beliefs, goodness do we have a lot of those. The ones about ourselves seem most believable. Surely I must know myself; know who I am and what I am capable of. Those beliefs impact on every aspect of our lives don't they? But what if they are not true? Bec

Trying to control thoughts increases that overwhelmed feeling which is pretty much the opposite of what we are told isn't it? We are told to think positively, have grateful thoughts and think about fluffy bunnies (well maybe not that one). Have you notice

Are you trying to control your emotions? Have you noticed how hard that is?  I tried to do that for a long time. I wanted to feel motivated and to stop procrastinating. I was told that was down to me. That I could change my mindset. Lots of tools and

Have you noticed that trying to get off the roller coaster of life increases overwhelm? But it can seem like that is something to attain, a life free from ups and downs. I have noticed this recently in my client conversations. The 'if only' of feeling cal

Addition cannot make you calmer. Because where we see lack there is judgement. Judgement is thought. It is thought which takes you away from feeling calmer. It really is that simple. Being calm is your natural state. It's the addition of thought which sto

Confusion about truth creates that overwhelmed feeling. Because, have you considered what is really true? Your thoughts about the future? Your 'what ifs'? Your regrets about the past? None of those thoughts are true. And that overwhelmed feeling is coming