Parental wounds…

The parental wounds that we live with cause issues in all our relationships.

The relationships we had with our earliest caregivers form the
framework of how we learned to relate with others and they’re the
foundation of how we think and act in all relationships.

The framework and the foundation…

Life is complicated. And raising children is hard… And even the greatest parents in the world aren’t “perfect.”

That’s why everyone has some parental wounds.

And those parental wounds (the recurring issues we have with our
parents) generally “mirror” and “parallel” the recurring issues we have
whenever and wherever there is friction with other people in our life.

Because “how we do one thing is how we do everything.”

“How we do one thing is how we do everything…”

Our parental wounds are a major source of whatever conflicts and limitations we face around relationships.

But that’s actually really good news.

Because whenever there is a problem, the “highest-leverage” thing we can do is to fix the problem at its source.

Because resolving a problem “at the source” saves us from having to
handle every far-reaching consequence that otherwise would have branched
out from the source.

And that’s why doing “inner-game work” on the dynamic we have with our mother and father is one of the highest-leverage things we can do if we want to grow ourselves into stronger, wiser, more self-actualized human beings.

Working on healing our parental wounds is like going straight to the source of all our relationship friction.

So where do we start?

You’re in luck.

Because in this episode of Women Wanting Women I interview
relationship genius Annie Lalla, who’s teachings on healing parental
wounds are the most tenderhearted and helpful of any I ever found
anyplace else.

During the interview Annie shares:

* How to talk to your parents about your parental wounds in a way that
allows them to see your pain, without them getting defensive of feeling
blamed…* How to engage with your parents in a way that avoids re-triggering parental wounds, so you can share happier times with them…* How to heal parental wounds, even when your parents won’t talk to you (or have passed away)… and* How parental wounds get passed on to the next generation (for anyone who has kids) and what to do about it…

Learn more about Annie Lalla and follow her on social media:

Annie Lalla (“The Cartographer of Love”) is professionally certified
in coaching, NLP and clinical hypnosis, and her work incorporates her
studies of all those areas plus evolutionary psychology, integral
theory, spiral dynamics, inter-generational family systems and
therapeutic sexuality.

Annie works with singles looking to find partners and couples wanting
to resolve conflicts that erode their connection, and she helps people
attract, create and foster extraordinary connections that maximize
freedom and minimize shame.

Sound familiar?

Anyone familiar with my podcasts and videos and classes and blogs
will recognize Annie Lalla’s name, because Annie and her husband Eben
Pagan are two of the people I quote from and refer to most often.