Waking Up to Narcissism

Waking Up to Narcissism


The Evolutionary Superpower of Highly Sensitive People: How HSP Differs from Autism (and Does it Matter?)

February 12, 2025

Have you ever been told you're 'too sensitive' or that you need to ‘get over it,’ or ‘don’t worry about it,’ but that only causes you to worry more, or feel less connected to others, or even yourself? Or have you been told that your sensitivity must mean you're on the autism spectrum? Or are you on the autisim spectrum and can you also identify with many of the characteristics of Highly Sensitive People? With over 2.2 million views and hundreds of comments on recent viral videos about Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), it's clear this topic strikes a nerve. Drawing from his experience working with both HSPs and individuals with ASD, Tony dives deep into why these distinct experiences are often confused - and why understanding the difference isn't just interesting, it's essential for creating a more empathetic world.


Through viral video statistics, personal anecdotes, and real-world examples, he breaks down how HSPs (representing 15-20% of the population) and individuals with ASD navigate life differently. From sensory processing to social dynamics, discover why that deep emotional processing might actually be an evolutionary advantage rather than a disorder. Along the way, the discussion explores how ADHD and NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) intersect with these experiences.


This episode provides crucial insights into recognizing, understanding, and supporting both HSPs and individuals with ASD. Whether questioning your own experiences or trying to better understand someone else's, listeners will find the clarity and validation they've been seeking. Perfect for anyone who's ever felt misunderstood about their sensitivity or confused about where they fit in the neurodiversity spectrum. Join Tony for an eye-opening discussion that might just change how you see yourself - or someone you love."


00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:30 The Viral Video on Highly Sensitive People

01:04 Behind the Scenes: Social Media Stats

02:05 Addressing Misconceptions and Personal Insights

03:26 A Personal Anecdote: The Butterfly Bandage

04:12 Responding to Drive-By Comments

04:29 Understanding Highly Sensitive People (HSP) vs Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)

07:27 Story Time: Sarah and Michael's Interaction

18:57 The Evolutionary Purpose of High Sensitivity

21:39 Traits and Characteristics of Highly Sensitive People

29:17 Challenges Faced by Highly Sensitive People

33:59 The Importance of Curiosity and Understanding

35:30 Understanding Human Uniqueness

36:22 Fascinating Facts About Human Preferences

37:22 The Complexity of Sensitivity

39:20 Exploring Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)

40:49 Comparing HSP and ASD Sensory Experiences

54:50 Social Interactions: HSP vs. ASD

01:00:47 Nonverbal Communication Differences

01:04:26 Emotional Energy and Social Fatigue

01:08:05 Final Thoughts and Listener Engagement